Sharon and I had a two hour meeting, slowly and deliberately going over every item on each spreadsheet. Eventually I was able to “get inside the numbers”. Having a basic understanding provided the foundation for me to comprehend the various scenarios offered by Paul. My confidence building, I began mapping the allocations I preferred. To make sure I had taken into consideration my financial needs I began tracking my income and expenses, reviewed my credit report, bank accounts and insurance policies. We blocked out appointments on my calendar so allow for sufficient time to keep to our plan. Being accountable to Sharon for completing each small step was key to my progress. Rather than getting overwhelmed or the divorce proceedings paralyzing me, I focused on my future. I was becoming a smart self-manager of my financial life.
Facing her financial circumstances was Alice’s learning edge. Alice became a quick study once she realized she was capable of understanding her finances. As the spreadsheets lost their power to overwhelm her, she experienced the exhilaration of ‘getting it’. It took a divorce to awaken her commitment to manage money in ways that would serve her for years to come.